Sita's reminder to Sri Rama about his kartavyam...

గురు బ్రహ్మ గురుర్ విష్ణుః గురుర్ దేవో మహేశ్వరః

గురు స్సాక్షాత్ పరబ్రహ్మ తస్మై శ్రీ గురవే నమః

శుక్లాం బరధరం విష్ణుం శశివర్ణం చతుర్భుజం

ప్రసన్న వదనం ధ్యాయేత్ సర్వ విఘ్నోప శాంతయే

శ్రుతి స్మృతి పురాణానాం ఆలయం కరుణాలయం

నమామి భగవత్ పాదం శంకరం లోక శంకరం

ఓం నమః శివాయ

In Sri Ramayana, in many places, the word Kartavyam is used and not Bhaadyata. There is a subtle difference between the two.

Kartavyam is your duty, Bhaadyata is duty with an expectation of the result. Let me explain this through a simple example.

When we bring up our children, it is our Kartavyam to impart good morals, provide appropriate facilities for education. Our Job ends by providing all the above.

If we take that as our Bhaadyata, then we would be affected by the result. For example, in case the child doesnt study well, then we would feel very bad bcos we have taken up the responsibility (Bhaadyata) of the child succeeding in his education. That is, we are taking the responsibility for the result and probably react based on the result like getting depressed, abusing the child etc.

On many occassions in Sri Raamayana, the word Kartavyam is used and not Bhaadyata.

కౌసల్య సుప్రజా రామా............. కర్తవ్యమ్ దైవ మాహ్నికం - Wonderful sloka by Viswamitra to wake up Rama Lakshmana.

During the Aranya vaasam phase, once some of the rushis and munis come to Raama and tell him their woes bcos of the Raakshasas in the forest. Raama feels very bad.
Two reasons:

1. As a king there should not be any one in his kingdom, who should suffer.

2. Even if some one suffers, he should be in a position to identify those and get rid off those sufferings.

But here, he had to hear from the Rushis and Munis that they are suffering.

He promises them that he will ensure that all the Raakshasas are killed and that they would not have any interruptions in their tapasya.

Having said this, when Rama Sita and Lakshmana start towards their Ashram, Sita says, "Dear Rama! I am not very sure if I should say this to you or not, but as your wife I felt that I should tell you what I have in mind and get it clarified rather than not telling you at all.

1. We have come here to forests to lead the life of a taapasi as per Maata Kaikeyi's wish. That basically implies that we should live like a taapasi, eat some vegetables, spend 14 years and go back to Ayodhya. Why should you carry your Bow and Arrow (కోదండం), Sword and other weapons with you as if you have come to the forest to wage wars?

2. Importantly, the Raakshasas did not cause you any harm. You dont have any direct enmity with them. They have some enmity with the Rushis and Munis and why are you promising that you would kill some one with whom u have no enmity at all? Isnt it wrong, as per Dharma, to kill some one without any enmity?"

Sita tells a small story in this context and I shall mention that in another post.

Sri Rama listens carefully to what Sita says and responds,"
When Bharatha came to me to return from forests and become a king, I refused and told him that he would be the king for the civilised part of Kosala kingdom and I shall be the ruler in the forests.
క్షాత్ర ధర్మం ప్రకారం ఎక్కడ ఆర్తనాదం వినపడ కూడదు. 
But after they have come to me seeking protection, refusing them protection is adharmam and completely against the Kshatriya rules.
ఆర్తనాదానికి కారకులైన వారితో రాజుకి శత్రుత్వం ఉన్న లేకపోయినా వారితో పోరాడవలసిందే. ఆ ధర్మము నందు నిలబడుట కోసం, నేను నిన్ను కాని లక్ష్మణుని కాని వొదిలి పెట్టాల్సి వస్తే వొదిలి పెట్టేస్తాను." 

Sita felt very happy on hearing the above words.

The reason for Sita to take up these things is not to get her doubts clarified, but to remind Sri Raama of his Kartavyam.

సర్వే జనాః సుఖినో భవంతు

PS: There could be typos and other mistakes in telugu and english, kindly pardon me with big hearts.